RELATIONSHIP COACHING
Are you single and ready to attract your Life Partner right NOW? Are you in a serious, but not-quite-committed relationship and wondering "Is this THE one? Can I be with this person for the rest of my life?" Are you in a strong, committed relationship and want to address issues that are arising, while deeping the connection and intimacy? Welcome to Relationship Coaching!
One of the reasons that Coaching in this area is so important to me, is that I have been in each of these positions and know from experience how few skills any of us have to actually create healthy, happy relationships! Breakups and divorce are extremely painful and leave you with little information about what to do different. Throw in some childhood wounds, a couple of failures and no real "tools in your toolbox" to begin with and you can become frustrated, hopeless or start to believe that it's just not worth the energy. Nothing could be further from the truth and I can attest to that, personally!
With Coaching, I will assist you through a process of self-discovery, working together to "load up" that tool box with tools, skills and concepts that help you become crystal clear about who you are and what you want. You will be able to move on quickly when core requirements aren't met before getting committed. And you will become clear and intentional in your committed relationships, deepening the love, trust and intimacy that is already there.
THE CASE FOR RELATIONSHIP COACHING
We have a powerful need and desire for coupling that drives us into and out of relationships. In recent times, we seem to have developed a "need" to be happy and a decreasing tolerance for delayed gratification. When we are single, most of us want to be in a relationship. When we are in an unhappy relationship most of us attempt to improve it and eventually leave if it doesn't get better.
A generation or two ago, men and women dated, married, had families and rarely divorced. Everyone seemed to know the rules and followed them. "Fulfillment" was not a priority and unhappiness was not cause for divorce. Then our society changed, the rules changed, and life and relationships became much more complex. We want to be happy, but we don't know how. We are traveling to a vague destination without a map or compass and are not aware of what is causing us to be off track.
Here are some sobering facts regarding relationships:
* There are more single people today than ever in history - 82 million in the U.S., 40% of the adult population
* The marriage rate is decreasing and is at it's lowest in 30 years
* Co-habitation is increasing
* The percentage of young adults who say that having a good marriage is extremely important to them is increasing (94% in one study)
* 43% of first marriages end within 15 years
* 39% of remarriages end within 10 years
* More than 85% of all adults marry at least once
These facts indicate to me that we continue to seek a fulfilling life partnership and are not clear about how to do so. Helping people close the gap between where they are and where they want to be is the realm of professional coaching.
5 STAGES OF RELATIONSHIP COACHING
1. Readiness Coaching addresses the Readiness Questions: "Who am I?" "What do I want?" and "How do I get what I want?" Coaching activities may include:
* Relationship history
* Personality assessment (traits, values, preferences, etc)
* Identification of goals and needs
* Clarify Vision, Requirements, Needs and Wants
* Develop profile of Life Partner
* Develop "Relationship Plan" to manifest /attract Life Partner
2. Attraction Coaching focuses on effective dating skills and activities. Coaching activities may include;
* Where and how to meet potential Life Partners
* Becoming ready for a committed relationship
* Effectively meeting people, developing networks, sorting
* Staying on track with your Relationship Plan
3. Pre-Commitment Coaching helps new couples be conscious and objective about the future of their relationship. Coaching activities may include:
* Becoming clear about whether this relationship is right for you
* Getting a reality check, being accountable to what you want
* Developing strategies for testing, decision-making
* Addressing emotional and compatibility issues
4. Couples Coaching helps a committed couple to co-create a Life Partnership. Coaching activities may include:
* Getting a committed relationship off to a good start
* Effective communication and conflict resolution skills
* Discovering and overcoming issues and obstacles around functional needs, such as parenting, domestic responsibilities, finances, etc.
* Identifying and negotiating mutual wants, needs and goals
5. Bliss Coaching helps a committed couple with a functional relationship deepen their emotional intimacy, trust, love and connection. Coaching activities may include;
* Increasing authentic expression of thoughts, feelings, wants and needs
* Ownership of emotional reactivity
* Increasing mutual support, trust, safety around emotional vulnerabilities and intimacy
* Developing skills, rituals and practices for deepening emotional, physical and spiritual connection and fulfillment
As a member and student of RCI, The RELATIONSHIP
COACHING INSTITUTE, I will be offering the following trainings
throughout the year - visit the workshops
page for details.
> RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS TRAINING FOR SINGLES - (RESTS) PROGRAM
> PARTNERS IN LIFE (PIL) PROGRAM FOR COUPLES
> TEENS AND RELATIONSHIPS - EMPOWERING
MY INNER SELF
> THIS TRANSITION CALLED "DIVORCE"
Call me and we can talk about
how I can support you, wherever you are, on your relationship
path. It's ALL about "relating!"
